Sunday, January 27, 2008

Second Virginity !!!

I came across this term while i was playing with google and i was amazed . When today i did some search it turned out that so called "Second Virginity" was nothing more that sexual abstinence. Now this concept is good for people who may have onced had sex and lost their virginity in haste to regret it later  but not for people who already got involved in an active sexual life. You may not have sex for years but you if you already had sex, you know what it feel likes and thus you cannot be classified a virgin. Physically if you had sex once you are no longer a virgin. Spiritually it may make sense though as a person may feel a virgin spiritually . As i am not much of a spiritual guy i think that "second virginity" is a hard concept to digest.

Virginity can only be lost one time.

Check out these links:
Virginity Loss Comes Once
Second Virginity- We Can Regain Somthing We've Lost

Friday, January 18, 2008

Virginity : Is It That Big Deal ???????????

To start with i am a virgin. I havent had sex. Its Just because i think i am not yet ready to have sex . I feel i am doing right. People may have many other reasons like having strong religious and cultural value and some feel that they might regret later if they lose their virginity in haste. If You are a virgin then there may be many questions running in your head.

Every body is having sex , so why not me?
Well not everybody , most people usually dont haste into having their first sex and those who do usually regret later. Listinening to all the talks around you , you may want to have sex yourself but i would not consider that a wise descison. You should only have sex when its the right time for you.

So when is the right time ?
Only you can tell when is the right time for you to have sex. There is no certain age for having your first sex. You and your patner should both agree on the descion you have made. You should feel comfortable and you must discuss all the issues before having sex. This way You can ensure that you first sex is a pleasent experince.

But i am too shy to discuss ?
Then forget it , you arent ready yet. Wait until you feel comfortable to discuss these issues.

Does first time sex hurts or is it a great experince?
It will most of times . I have heard that some girls also bleed a little. This occurs because the hymen breaks while having sex for first time. There is no  garuntee that you first experince should be a great or even a pleasnt experince.

I am a virgin , Does this mean that i am immature?
Well, no . Losing your virginity does not make you mature or adult. Losing you virginity is just a step towards having an active sexual life. There is no relation with maturity and virginity.

Do i loes my virginity if i mastubrate?
No

What about oral sex and anal sex?
Generally no. But different people have different views.

Will i look unexperinced if i tell my partner that i am a virgin?
I would advise you to share you sexual history with you partner . If you lie today you may have to regret tommorow. Try to be honest.

Will pregnency occur in first time sex?
Yes . Always be careful against STI's(Sexually Transmited Infection) and unwanted pregnancies.

Will sex affect my relationship ?
Well it too depends on you and your partner . Feel free to discuss with your partner.


Just remember that if you lose you virginity under peer pressure or just because all you friends are having sex and if you have sex just to lose virginity you might regret it later.